conversations hearts! ; day 11 (1of 2) - the single girl's guide to surviving valentine's day

By: Kavita – Iheartvintagex

(http://iheartvintagex.blogspot.com/)

Being single on valentines day sucks. I know we try and deny it, and I am constantly telling everyone how ridiculous the day is and how I don't care about being all in love and whatnot, but it is true. Being single on valentines day sucks and I do find myself often pining for someone to share it with!

I really love being single, but having been in a serious relationship before, I know too well how nice it is to have someone around. For cuddles and laughter, of course it's normal for people to miss times like those. So I have decided that we should all share valentines 2010 with the ones we love... OURSELVES.

1. Avoid watching romantic films - If it upsets you and makes you want a relationship to the extent that you've had 2 tubs of ben and jerrys and are already starting on a 3rd, DONT GO THERE. I'm the type of person to cope with soppy films (probably because I'm sat there thinking how ridiculous and unrealistic love is) but many people aren't able to without a wadful of tissues and it can make your valentines day worse. Judge it for yourself, but if you are someone who enjoys a good soppy film just for a few tears and happy memories, then I suggest going with your best gal pals (or guys!) Even your sisters ir family members! Or, have a big chick flick day with your friends with lots of chocolates and take cheesey facebook pictures (you all know what I mean!)

2. Don't spend that moolah on a guy, spend it on yourself! - Whilst all your coupled up friends (ugh) are off spending the cash on ridiculous teddies that say I love you and such, spend that well earnt money on you! I suggest roping in your friends or family and have a MAJOR shopping session. I suggest topshop for the ultimate shopping fun, or if you are feeling really generous, treat yourself to that beautiful bracelet that you've been wanting for so long. If your friends are too busy playing wifey, go on ebay and spend the money! Do it a few days in advance and when they arrive, wait until valentines to open them! Not only do you get surprises about which item is in which thing, but you actually LIKE the items (yeah, suck on that you cheap tacky teddy bear)

3. Get all independent woman on yo ass - Nothing feels better than to embrace the independent woman in you. Alot of people hate the idea of being 'alone' on valentines, but if you make it so YOU are the one choosing to by by yourself, rather than being 'lonely' it is about you, and YOU TIME. Have a nice long bath with lots of lush goodies, and watch re-runs of your favourite shows. May I suggest something such as GLEE, which isn't too depressing and also makes you get up and dance. Don't opt for One Tree Hill, are you serious? The Brooke/Luca/Peyton love triangle is enough to make anyone cry, let alone someone alone on valentines day!

 'Oh I have two beautiful girls who love me' - oh yeah, cry me a river.

4. Make yourself feel good - I know alot of people can feel upset on valentines because of a recent break-up (trust me, I know how it feels!) and it can often lead to people feeling they aren't good enough. Take this day to work on your confidence, maybe look through all your clothes and realise 'hey, look how awesome my wardrobe is' or even sorting your schoolwork out and thinking ';I'm an awesome student'. Whatever makes you feel happy. I can't read minds and everyone is different, but I usually feel that accomplishing something makes me feel better. Yeah well, you're off to have dinner with my ex, but I just wrote a blog post that inspired someone. Try and focus on the positive and not the negative. :)

5. Don't even mention the 'V' word - Who even says you have to acknowledge this ridiculous time of year? I mean c'mon. Besides the fact that every friggin shop has something to do with this ridiculous holiday in their window (oh yeah THANKS THORNTONS I had no idea it was valentines day. Oh yeah, CHEERS for the reminder), nothing is making you celebrate it. Do what you would normally do, go on facebook, read a nice book or just relax with the 'rents. Theres usually some good stuff on tv on valentines day!

So they are my top tips for a girls survival of the dreaded day of lurrrve. Watch emotionally apropriate films, spend lots of money on yourself, embrace the 'me-time', LOVE YOURSELF and treat it like any other day. It may seem hard now, but you know what the best thing is about valentines day is?

Everything after the day that is valentines themed is half price, you can buy it all for yourself and have saved a fortune. £1 valentines choccie selection? Don't mind if I do Thorntons ;)

Thanks for reading, if you want any more advice, feel free to drop me an email at iheartvintagex@hotmail.co.uk :)

Lots of valentines love, Kavita xxxxx

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